Being compassionate to ourselves turns out to be a powerful lever for change

Kegan and Laskow Lahey’s Immunity to Change is a beautiful simple practice which goes really deep.

Take a piece of paper with five spaces:

1) commitment to change

A thing you really want to do — lose ten kilos, transform your sales.

A netural, factual description of a change that really implicates you, that you feel in your gut

2) your *actual* behaviours that in fact prevent that goal from being achieved

….a *need* for four square meals a day, being too busy with other admin…

3) if you stopped doing (2), what would you most worry about?

….being deprived of reward/not keeping up with the admin…

4) the competing commitment that justifies and explains (3) — the real reason why it’s *important* to you

…reward for all the work/fear of not being enough

5) big assumption that makes (4) *absolutely necessary*?

…I need and deserve rewards/I’m not enough

It can be surprisingly emotional!

THEN take SMART action, over time — rich and generous and compassionate:

– Safe

– Modest

– Actionable

– Research stance (all about learning)

– Test

…get to the deep roots of why you aren’t achieving your goals, get generous with the *really good* reasons behind it, then gently work at that level.

#change #immunitytochange #compassion